Make things clear with your boyfriend if you decide to break it off because it may be difficult for him, too. Just a heads up, if you don’t happen to find someone you click with, don’t expect to be able to run back to your boyfriend. Give yourself some alone time to think about this; weigh out the pros and cons. This isn’t an easy decision, especially since this is a 3-year relationship! Sure, there are many fish in the sea, but is the one you’re hooked on worth staying with? These are just some questions that you can ask yourself before deciding on anything.

You have a nagging feeling that you were the first person they picked out of a lineup.

There’s no harm if he finds you physically attractive but also loves your person. It’s normal to enjoy all the physical stuff during the first month of your relationship, but at some point, your relationship should include other things too. He tilts the screen of his phone when you’re seated closeby, he secures his phone with a hundred locks and he puts so much energy into hiding his phone from you. It’s just so obvious, it doesn’t need to be spelled out, there’s another woman in the picture. The famous ‘no label’ excuse is an indirect way of saying he doesn’t want to commit to you.

It helps you discover what you want in a man and how you want it. You can’t be with anyone simply because they are available at the time. There has to be something about them and you can make your choice after a series of dates. Consider the mutual connection between the two of you before talking about these other men. When you sense that things are getting pretty intense, it’s important to let him know, even though you said it earlier.

He says “I don’t like labels”

If you want to remind them that you aren’t interested in getting back together or maintaining a connection, say this. Sometimes a text like this one is the best way to end a long-distance relationship, Battistin says, especially if you haven’t heard from them in a while. Matchmaker Danielle Selber recommends a text like this one. You can send it instead of ghosting them or send if you strongly suspect they’re already ghosting you. I agree with keeping the options open but our legs closed.

He wouldn’t want to risk someone else swooping in and stealing you away. Yes, he spends the same amount of time with me as he always has. Click here to take our quick “Is He Losing Interest” Quiz right now and find out if he’s really losing interest in you… He will always try to factor you into his life in one way or the other.

He might be in a place where he’s not even able to be accountable to himself, let alone another person. Maybe his friends complain about his inability to get back to them, too. Whatever the case, wishy-washy behavior is a sign of a guy who isn’t sure and that’s not something you want in a partner. What that really means is that he’s not ready to be accountable to anyone. He’s happy with his independent lifestyle and no matter how perfect of a girlfriend you are, he’s not in the right place to commit. Or maybe he just doesn’t think you’re the right one for him, but he still likes you and enjoys you so he doesn’t want to cut things off right now.

That’s why it’s always seemed so silly to me that we’re expected to suddenly stop developing crushes on other people as soon as we enter relationships. I mean, what happens if you’re in a relationship but like someone else? Well, that depends on how you act on it and what sort of relationship you’re in. This article was co-authored by Trudi Griffin, LPC, MS. Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin specializing in Addictions and Mental Health. She provides therapy to people who struggle with addictions, mental health, and trauma in community health settings and private practice. She received her MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University in 2011.

Some people make up for it by jumping into a relationship with another person right away. If you’re noticing this, it’s probably one of those warning signs he’s talking to another girl. Or he’s just starting to lose interest in the relationship. I agree with you Eric that no one should spy on anyone. Your love life has a different risk if you and/or your partner is sleeping around.

He Gets a Lot of Texts or Calls When You’re Together

An intense physical connection is a normal part of many new relationships, of course. But if you feel like you’re being used and there are other warning signs to support your suspicion, you’re probably not wrong. Sometimes simply verbalizing what you’ve been feeling can be really healing and make those feelings less intense. Ask a trusted friend if you can talk to them about something, and then just let it all out. Even if they already knew about your crush, it can be helpful to verbally work through your sadness about it not working out.

If you get the feeling that, when you’re with your guy, he wishes he were anywhere else, it might be because he’s no longer interested in the relationship. Instead, he’s imagining this other person who is not you, and so your relationship becomes the thing he has to escape from. Where once he daydreamed about you, now he daydreams to get away from you. A couple signs of mental absence can be noncommittal answers in a conversation because he’s not listening to you and annoyance whenever you try to regain his attention.

“Dating” means “having sex with” to a lot of people, and even if it is okay to hang out with several different guys for coffee, he may take it as a bit more then that when you say yes. If you’re having sex with several people at once this is definitely something anyone deserves to know fairly soon in a relationship. What you do on those dates, and when and where you go? Whether you’re dating other people — Absolutely his business. Dating is different than simple friendships, and it’s completely reasonable to want to know where you stand. Watch your crush’s eyes to see who they’re following.